Self
Development Best Practices
A Better Life … Only a DECISION Away!
By Bob Proctor
Decisions, or the lack of them, are responsible for the
stagnation of many a career. Individuals who have become
very proficient at making decisions are the same people
whose annual incomes fall into the six and seven figure
category. However, it’s not just your income that is
affected by decisions; your whole life is dominated by
them. The health of your mind and body, the well-being
of your family, your social life, and the type of
relationships you develop, all are dependent upon your
ability to make sound decisions.
Indecision sets up internal conflicts that can, without
warning, escalate into all-out mental and emotional
wars. Psychiatrists have a term to describe these
internal wars - ambivalence. Ambivalence is defined as
the co-existence in one person of opposite feelings
toward the same objective.
It does not require a doctorate degree in psychiatry to
understand that you are going to have difficulty in your
life if you permit your mind to remain in an ambivalent
state for any length of time. The person who lives in
ambivalence becomes very despondent and virtually
incapable of any type of productive activity. Everyone,
on occasion, has experienced feelings of ambivalence. If
it happens to you frequently, make the decision right
now to stop it.
Indecision is a cause of ambivalence; however, it is a
secondary cause, not the primary cause. For over a
quarter century, I have been studying the behavior of
people who have become very proficient at making
decisions. They all have one thing in common - a very
strong self-image, which includes a high degree of
self-esteem. Low self-esteem or a lack of confidence is
the real culprit here. Decision makers are not afraid of
making an error. If and when they make an error, or fail
at something, they have the ability to shrug it off.
They learn from the experience, but they will never
submit to the failure.
Unfortunately, many people permit their resources to
dictate if and when a decision will or can be made. When
John Kennedy asked Wernher Von Braun what it would take
to build a rocket that would carry a man to the moon,
his answer was simple and direct: “The will to do it.”
President Kennedy never asked if it was possible. He
never asked if they could afford it or any one of a
thousand other questions, all of which would have been
valid.
President Kennedy made a decision. He said, “We will put
a man on the moon and return him safely to earth before
the end of the decade.” The fact that it had never been
done before in all the hundreds of thousands of years of
human history was not even a consideration. He decided.
The objective was accomplished in his mind the second he
made the decision.
The greatest stumbling block you will encounter when
making important decisions in your life is circumstance.
For example, let’s consider the circumstance of money
with respect to your decision-making process. You should
never let the lack of funds determine whether you will
or will not do something. Consider this for a moment.
When you decided to buy your first home, did you just
happen to have a couple hundred thousand dollars sitting
in the bank? I don’t think so. I know I didn’t. But the
minute you made the decision to buy the home, the money
appeared. Somehow you came up with the down payment and
you also probably had enough money to buy new curtains
and a bevy of other things for the new home. The minute
you make the decision to do something, you will attract
to you all that is requisite for the realization of that
goal.
You may know many misguided individuals who try
something once or twice and if they do not hit the
bull’s-eye, feel they are failures. Failing does not
make anyone a failure, but quitting most certainly does,
and quitting is a decision. So it follows that when you
make a decision to quit, you make a decision to fail.
Take the first step in creating your own prosperous
future. Build a mental picture of exactly how you would
like to live. Make a firm decision to hold onto that
vision and you will find that positive ways to improve
everything will begin to flow into your mind.
Your life is important and, at its best, short. You have
the potential to do anything you choose and to do it
well, but you must make decisions to live your dreams.
You must not hesitate or be swayed by circumstances. And
when the time arrives, grasp the opportunities and hang
on tight.
Bob Proctor is widely regarded as one of the living
masters and teachers of “The Law of Attraction”.
Featured in the blockbuster hit, The Secret, Proctor has
worked in the area of mind potential for over 40 years,
is the best-selling author of You Were Born Rich, and
has transformed the lives of millions through his books,
seminars, courses and personal coaching.
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